3 month old - Comfort Sucking/Fussing/Overeating?

by Trish Black
(Ontario, Cmaliceanada)

Hi Tracy,

Your site is really great! Question: My son is 3 months old and going through a growth spurt so he is definitely nursing more often. However, even before this he was a comfort nurser.

Sometime I get stuck with him wanting to comfort suck in his sleep! As soon as I pull out the breast, he starts routing very actively for it.

If I don't give in, he wakes up and I have to start all over again. I am feeding on demand, but I try to separate eating from sleeping time now, which doesn't always line up.

In the past, whenever he was comfort sucking, and there was a letdown, he would get fussy and constantly latch and re-latch. This to me was an indicator that he was not actually hungry and just wanted some momma love in the form of nursing.

Trouble is, I have a very active letdown and what I think is a lot of milk. He can finish eating in 15 minutes or less and be totally content for a while. I have to lie down to nurse and sometimes let some foremilk run into a washcloth.

Sometimes, it seems he gives in and, though not hungry, just drinks when the letdown comes - IS it possible to overeat while comfort sucking. He doesn't spit up often - occasionally if he's very active after eating.

How can coincide eating with waking up so I don't have to feed him to bed?

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Oct 17, 2012
comfort feeding and overfeeding
by: anon

Hi Trish

you are doing great! You are making sure that both baby's emotional and nutritional needs are met.

If comfort feeding gets too much, you could try the following...

Do you have a partner that can do some night shifts with baby? your partner can sleep with baby in another room, so that baby doesn't smell you. Whenever baby wakes and cries for you, you can breastfeed him and then leave the room. your partner can then take over the role of comfort by just holding or patting baby to sleep. This can get baby accustomed to falling asleep straight after a feed. it might take a few nights and it might be a little difficult for you to hear him crying.

You cannot overfeed a breastfed baby. Your baby sounds to me as if he is doing just fine. Remember that breastfed babies overall, do pick up more weight than formula fed babies.

Oct 17, 2012
overfeed a breastfed baby
by: Zoƫ Turner

Health visitors here (UK) keep saying you can never overfeed a breastfed baby and they rarely have concerns if a baby is large if he/she is solely breastfed. My baby likes to comfort suckle and wakes a lot in the night but I'm happy with this as it's also a good catch up time for the missed day feeds when there has been too much distraction for the baby during the day.

Oct 17, 2012
suck to pacify and suck to feed
by: Jaclyn Pawlowski Love

If he's not spitting up I would think he's not overheating. I think they know how to suck to pacify and suck to feed. Maybe he was fussy b/c he needed a burp? That's what my guy tends to do. I have a good supply as well. Maybe he tends to be a snacker? Good luck!

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