This is the first place I've ever read/heard the term "cluster feeding". My first daughter did this quite a bit, and every attempt I made to stop it failed miserably so I finally just gave in and made the best of it.
Everyone, including my midwife and lactation consultant said I should try to break the habit she was forming. But I let her go on cluster feeding and co-sleeping and clinging to me constantly.
When she was just over 2.5 years old, she quit breastfeeding and co-sleeping and potty trained all in the same week. Shortly after that I took her to daycare for the first time and she ran off happily, not caring whether I stayed or not.
Some kids are just born a little insecure and I firmly believe that if you just let them know that you'll be there as long or as much as they need you, they will relax and grow out of the behavior much sooner. It's nice to finally read something that says following my instincts was the best thing to do.
actually pretty helpful. My daughter is a week old. Sometimes she will nurse for about an hour and be done and pass right out.. other times she will nurse for hours on end and right when i think she may be done.. she wants more.
She usually likes to wake up and nurse till she falls back asleep. Every now and then she will be done and just stay awake and relax for a few before she will either pass out or nurse again till she is passed out.
I usually let her nurse on one side until i notice she is slowing down, burp her for a good minute or two at least, then switch sides. She is usually on each side for about 15-30 minutes before i need to switch her.
and she usually never cries unless she is hungry or every now and then when she wants to be held
My son is now two weeks and one day old. So far we've been breastfeeding on demand every 1-3 hours and swaddling him in the night having him sleep on his side. That has allowed him to sleep for five hours at a time.
During the day when he sleeps we put him in his bouncy seat or swing. The doctor told me this week that not only can I not swaddle him any more I also have to wait at least two hours between feedings and that I need to put him on his back and stomach a few hours during the day.
She says that if we swaddle him he'll work his way out of the swaddle and wake up so we'll have to get up to reswaddle him. And that we can't cluster feed because he'll get used to it and be expecting to be fed everytime he cries.
So the past two days have been a living hell. He hates being put on his back and stomach and will only sleep for twenty minutes at a time when I position him like that.
Additionally he hasn't been sleeping because he's so hungry all the time since I have to wait two hours to feed him. We've been miserable and decided to only swaddle in the night because we'd rather wake up once every five hours to reswaddle/feed instead of every twenty minutes to try and sooth him without a swaddle.
We've given up on him sleeping on his back or stomach during the night because the same thing happens, waking up every twenty minutes.
I've been in tears not being able to feed him when he's hungry and I don't know what to do. When I finally to get to feed him I have to fight to get him to stay awake so he can do fifteen minutes on each breast. Because of that I don't enjoy breastfeeding like I used to since I have to fight him to keep him from falling asleep.
I don't know what to do I want to do what the doctor says but I want to feed my baby if he's obviously hungry. I feel like the doctor has made our lives miserable because of these stupid rules. Any advice?
My son is 7 weeks old and every evening about 5 all he wants to do is nurse until about 11.
He spend 10-15 minutes on each side eating and then comfort nurses for about 30 minutes on the last side.
Then he will take a 10 minute break. During eating time I can hear a good suck-swallow rhythm but during comfort nursing his suck is weaker with no or little swallowing.
It is overwhelming as dad can't hardly spend any time with him and I am the only one who can comfort him.
I know it is normal and will end eventually. He is content after eating the rest of the day. I just want some reassurance that I am doing the right thing. He is my third. My older two didn't go through this phase. He was also a month early. Thanks!
?? night time cluster feefing and reverse sleeping?
(greenville, SC, usa)
I'm a new mom and my baby is about 10-11 days old. At first when my milk came in I was struggling with engorgement, but after that evened out through pumping my left nipple started to hurt a lot and crack and bleed.
The Lactation consultant I talked to said to use bactracin and pump on that side and use a slow flow bottle Dr Brown's because she had seen me and seen that my baby had a good latch and did not think that this would undue the progress we had made.
So I started pumping on the left and feeding him the slow flow bottle. He did great. And since my right nipple was OK we continued to nurse at every feeding from that too. well last night it scared me BC he did some cluster feeding and I felt maybe he got too much from the bottle because he went after it voraciously.
And we had a 3-4 hr cluster feeding session between the bottle, my right breast, and i even brought my left breast back into play, but afterwards decided that wasn't best because it hurt again after nursing.
We have also been following the 1-3 hr day schedule and 2-4 hr this has been difficult because I don't get much sleep at night because he is a slow nurser.
I'm wondering if I should approach it with more of an on demand thing during the day and hope for longer stretches at night.
Any wisdom on how to get longer stretches at night? I have been letting him nap for a long time during the day and I heard that might hurt their nighttime patterns.
Comments for ?? night time cluster feefing and reverse sleeping?
Can anyone tell me because i have no experience in these matters is it normal for a mother to feed her new baby daughter night and day since birth buby is now 3 months old every 2 to 3 hours it somehow seems a little to much cheers
I'm a dad of four lovely children, I may not have first hand experience of breast feeding (I'd be a millionaire if I had) but I witnessed the bond between mother and baby for a long time. There is no better way to feed your baby but occasionally it can become a little complex.
One of our children used to use mum (yup I'm from London) as the only method of sleeping. So I would have to tip toe him back into his cot when he'd finish feeding only to hear him wriggling around and crying for the 47th feed in a night. It can become a vicious cycle because a tired mum and dad want to get back to the little amount of sleep you get and it's hard to break.
I wrote in more depth about this http://parentplaygroup.com/2014/07/09/sleep-training-the-boss/ and luckily we found a way out eventually. It might not work for all but it did for us.
Hi, my 12 month old son still nurses before naps and bed, but Ive been noticing that he does this thing where he sucks my nipple in and out of his mouth a lot before falling asleep. I think my milk has almost completely dried up--is that why? Any suggestions or similar issues?