Cluster feeding/nap questions

by shelley
(tennessee)

My son is now two weeks and one day old. So far we've been breastfeeding on demand every 1-3 hours and swaddling him in the night having him sleep on his side. That has allowed him to sleep for five hours at a time.

During the day when he sleeps we put him in his bouncy seat or swing. The doctor told me this week that not only can I not swaddle him any more I also have to wait at least two hours between feedings and that I need to put him on his back and stomach a few hours during the day.

She says that if we swaddle him he'll work his way out of the swaddle and wake up so we'll have to get up to reswaddle him. And that we can't cluster feed because he'll get used to it and be expecting to be fed everytime he cries.

So the past two days have been a living hell. He hates being put on his back and stomach and will only sleep for twenty minutes at a time when I position him like that.

Additionally he hasn't been sleeping because he's so hungry all the time since I have to wait two hours to feed him. We've been miserable and decided to only swaddle in the night because we'd rather wake up once every five hours to reswaddle/feed instead of every twenty minutes to try and sooth him without a swaddle.

We've given up on him sleeping on his back or stomach during the night because the same thing happens, waking up every twenty minutes.

I've been in tears not being able to feed him when he's hungry and I don't know what to do. When I finally to get to feed him I have to fight to get him to stay awake so he can do fifteen minutes on each breast. Because of that I don't enjoy breastfeeding like I used to since I have to fight him to keep him from falling asleep.

I don't know what to do I want to do what the doctor says but I want to feed my baby if he's obviously hungry. I feel like the doctor has made our lives miserable because of these stupid rules. Any advice?

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Dec 16, 2013
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"Rules" of parenting
by: Lyssa

The first and most important rule in parenting is to do what feel right for you, your baby, and your family.

It seems to me that you had a great system that worked very well for you an baby!

Doctors are supposed to be people we trust to always know best, but that is simply not the case, especially when it comes to breastfeeding and parenting.

Follow your instincts. If baby sleeps best on their side, do that. If baby is hungry every hour, feed them!

You can NOT spoil a newborn. By responding to baby's cues, you are teaching them to trust you and to care for them.

Follow your instincts. Ignore your doctor, who is NOT a specialist in breastfeeding and is giving you the standard for FORMULA fed babies. It may be hard, but your baby will thank you.

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