it isn't just me who has struggled

by Dee

It's so good to read these stories and finally know that it isn't just me who has struggled.

My daughter is 8 months old, I was always fully intent on breastfeeding exclusively, but this wasn't to be. I had to supplement with formula from two weeks which I found totally heartbreaking.

I tried everything I could: doctor prescribed medication, herbal supplements, pumping, days on end in bed getting skin-to-skin contact, a lactation consultant, I visited a kineseologist, practised EFT (emotional freedon technique - clears emotional blockages) joined La Leche League, requested hormone and thryoid tests from my doctor but nothing helped.

I still put my baby to my breast although she gets so little, it really acts as a soother. I found the lack of support almost unbearable, there is so little understanding for women who don't produce enough milk.

My nurse thought I had postnatal depression as I would get upset by not being able to feed my baby, I was told that shouldn't make me sad. The worst thing for me was the attitude of professionals who didn't offer support but instead expected me to give my baby a bottle and get on with it.

No one understood my deep need to breastfeed my baby, and my utter desperation at not being able to. I'm blessed with being pregnant again. Although I'm already anxious (I know this won't help!!) about feeding our next baby, as I know I don't have the strength to go through it all again.

I'm hoping my next experience is better but I'll have to take each day as it comes. Thank you all for sharing your stories X

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Oct 25, 2011
by: Nicole

Enjoy being pregnant & try not to worry about it just yet as you approach your due date speak to your doctor to see if there is something you can do to prepare keep in mind that stress will decrease your supply so try to relax too! Best of luck to you & new baby

Oct 26, 2011
Stay Positive
by: Elsabe

We all do the best we can with what we know and have at each stage of our lives. I'm sure you're finding lots of useful information on this site to prepare you even better for baby number two.

Keep a positive attitude and give it your best. Breastfeeding is always worth a try, even if you weren't successful at first. Nicole is right, relaxing about it will be best. You're a great mommy!! I wish you all the best with your new baby.

Oct 26, 2011
I experienced this!
by: Michelle

I had exactly the same experience. My child health nurse too thought I had depression... They don't understand the emotional pain of not being able to breastfeed.

I used an SNS to breast feed and supplement with formula for the first three months but I couldn't go out and do this so it got too much for me.

It has been reassuring to read other similar stories on this page and not feel so alone. I have since done a lot of research and I too hope I can exclusively breast feed as we are now trying for baby number two.

I would love to keep in touch with you so that we can share stories and I can share my plans with you that I have for producing more milk next time to help relieve your stress.

Please contact me... [email protected]

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