Real breastfeeding problem :(

by Helpless
(Texas)

Hi my son is only 2 weeks old, and I feel like I'm getting more and more fed up with BF him. I'm just getting tired of the constant leakage of my boobs, staining my shirts, wet shirts and bras (yes, I use nursing pads), sore nipples (yes he has a good latch but I'm just new at this and it hurts!), and my most annoying thing about it all is that he unlatches himself and spits milk out; that runs down my chest (on to my shirt or bra) or it runs down his cheek and sits on his neck.

I try to clean him but since his cord hasn't fallen off yet I can't bathe him. And I'm tired of the stinky milk smell!!! Yuck!!! I guess I'm looking for advice to push through it or maybe a slap in the face =\ I know that breastmilk is the BEST thing for him.. And I really want him to have it.. But I guess I'm just being selfish because 'I'm so fed up'. Please help me. =\

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Nov 06, 2012
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my thoughts
by: Tracy Behr, CBC, CLD (CBI)

Hi, Helpless

You sound a little depressed, are you still taking your prenatal vitamins, it is recommended to keep taking them after birth for a few months. When you go through depression, everything seems worse than what it actually is. I went through this myself and only realized a year later when it "lifted", that I had been depressed. I felt it was a chore just getting up in the morning. Get something with Omega oils in it.

You can bath your baby! You can bath your baby at least twice per week. Here in South Africa, we give our babies a bath every day from birth. I did this with both my children and their cords fell off before day 10. You just need to keep wiping it with surgical spirits after a bath and nappy change.

Nov 06, 2012
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time to adjust
by: Yuliya Novak

Try lying down position. It worked for me. I have tried many brands of breast pads and the best one is Pigeon (Japanese brand). I think first 1,5 months are pretty difficult. You and your baby need time to adjust and learn how to breasfeed. It shall get better.

Nov 06, 2012
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Thanks ladies :)
by: Helpless

Lol yes, I'm still taking my prenatals.. And quite happy.. I don't think I'm depressed at all. I've seen women with PPD and maybe I MAY have the mildest case of it, but for the most part, I'm happy.. It's just this BF, that I can't seem to get the hang of.

Idk How u mamas deal with baby spitting milk on u! Lol I'm a pretty clean person.. Also a new mom, so I'm still needing to adjust to the 'messy-ness' of mommy hood. =\ And thanks for letting me know about bathing him.. We wipe him down with warm water and a wash cloth, but I will be taking a tub with him tonight ;) (afraid of holding him in the shower; incase he gets really slippery and I lose grip).. thanks for the replies :) it helps to know there are/were others in my position. :)

Nov 07, 2012
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Felicia
by: Anonymous

Ur could have over active letdown too. Try to express some milk out using hand technique b4 feeding baby. Newborn commonly regurgitate milk. He unlatches himself cld be b'coz your active letdown that is choking him. Newborn still weak in suckling, therefore is not easy for them to control the milk flow & swallow so much. It get easier as the months goes by. Just ignore the house work for the time being but concentrate on yourself & baby ya

Nov 12, 2012
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Hang in there.
by: Nikki

I'm typing this as I'm pumping at work :). The first few weeks are the hardest. Hang in there. The soreness will get better. I've never had an issue with leaking, but look at it as being blessed with an abundance of milk! I promise, you will get through this and will be so happy you stuck it out. And if you think you have some depression, don't be ashamed to seek help. You're doing awesome so just hang in there. Hugs!

Nov 12, 2012
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Dont give up.
by: Eldener Tan

Hi Helpless, It's only 2weeks and you must understand he is new to the world and that including latching for a suckle. When we were babies, we can depends on our mothers for milk. Dont give up.

If baby got dirty, give her/him a quick bath and just make sure the area ard the cord is properly dry. Shd be no prob. Good luck and happy parenting.

Nov 12, 2012
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Stinky milk smell!
by: Emily

Stinky milk smell! Wait until you have a baby on formula and have that stinky formula smell! Its wayyy worse lol

Nov 12, 2012
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Lasinoh
by: Gina Walker

use Lasinoh nursing cream for soreness. It is a miracle cream! use it EVERY time you nurse.
You can get it at Walmart or most drug stores in the baby dept.

Nov 12, 2012
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"burp rags"
by: Holly

Cloth diapers, aka "burp rags", will be your savior. Buy a dozen or more. Each time little lovey man nurses tuck it under his chin. When he leaks or chokes and backs off, slip an edge over your nipple and apply some pressure, use another edge to wipe his face. Fold one in half and then half again and stuff it in your bra on the side you are not nursing and let it leak into it and decrease the pressure. I had hyperlactation syndrome with my first. Used to choke her too, spray her in the eye, lol. She got to where she would nurse on one side each feeding. It worked... As far as the sore nipples, make sure you don't have thrush/candida/yeast. Bright red nipples and baby has white patches on the inside of his mouth and/or lips. Apply yogurt with live active cultures and blow dry after feeding :-). Stick with it. Your baby and your body will thank you!

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