weaning my baby from breastfeeeding

Hi Im a new mum, Im 19 and my daughter is 7 months old. i have recently stopped breast feeding and its so sore. I have lumps and blocked ducts and they wont go away.

I have tried to express a little bit to help with the pain but i cant get much milk out, i think its because the milk is drying up but it hurts so bad.

Iv tried cabbage leaves and that does soothe my breasts a little but i am worried about the lumps and blocked ducts because i don't want a abscess. Is there anything else i can do to help?

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Feb 04, 2011
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Weaning engorgement
by: Tracy

Hi!

Before I give you some advise on how to relieve the pain, I just want to make sure you know the following...

It is recommended to continue with breastfeeding for at least six months read here on the benefits of breastfeeding

If you had to wean baby because you had to return to work, you should know that you can continue to breastfeed while working.

It's also perfectly okay if you just don't want to breastfeed anymore, its a personal choice...I'm just mentioning the facts in-case it was for other reasons.

Things that will help with weaning so that you don't feel so engorged...

- Try weaning slowly, instead of leaving it all in one day...this will help your body signal a slow decrease in milk supply.

- Ice packs can be used to help with swelling and pain.

- You can continue to use cabbage leaves.

- Read more on how to deal with engorged breasts. 

- Read our page on how to wean a baby from breastfeeding

Hope this helps...please let me know how things go.


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Stopping breastfeeding/weaning

by Sarah M
(Canada)

This is my second girl. With my first breastfeeding wasn't easy. She was more of a bottle baby. It was easy stopping her night feedings. That's when she started a pacifier. She slept great too. My second little girl is ten months. I must go back to work in two.

I love breastfeeding so much. She depends on it emensly for morning and the many night feedings. She was eating solids well. I still give her options in the day but she's totally a breast babe. I'm trying to wean. At least getting her through the days without.

All websites are the same. Nothing seems to work!! I can't just go to work and leave her with a new sitter crying all day!!!! How can this be easier!!!!!????? Help!!! :,(

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Oct 06, 2011
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It takes time
by: Tracy

Hi Sarah

There is no easy answer for this. I know how you must be feeling, my little girl is a "breast baby" too...she won't sleep at night unless I breastfeed her to sleep and she cries during the day if she doesn't get the boob. Luckily I'm a work at home mom...so I dont need to wean her soon.

The only thing that's gona help is time...she will eventually get accustomed to not getting breastfed during the day. Unfortunately she will cry the first couple of days, but she will get over it...I know its difficult...I think its more difficult for a mom than what it is for the baby though ;-)

The transition can be made easier by pumping milk for her, she will most likely prefer this over anything else...also to keep breastfeeding in the evenings for comfort...until she decides to stop.

Good luck!

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Weaning and Sleeping

by Sarah - Rubys Mummy
(New Zealand)

My baby is 9months old and I want to wean her off breastfeeding as Im back at work and frankly sick of pumping!

She has formula and/or expressed breastmilk when Im at work so is used to either- and I have even feed her formula myself and she didnt ask for the breast.

However still likes the bedtime feed, and often still wakes at night and wont go down without a breastfeed.

another thing is that I still have her in an arms up swaddle (Love to swaddle up- similar in concept to the zipadee zip) as she still likes the firmness of this and can suck her hands through the fabric to self-soothe.

Should I be trying to get her out of this into a sleeping bag first, or wean her off breastfeeding first?

I also use a safe -t sleep at night as she wakes up if she is in a different position, like sideways or on her tummy!
thanks

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trouble weaning baby from breast

by Krystal Wiparata
(New Zealand)

I used to bottle feed occasionally when my baby was 4-6 weeks, now that I have decided to stop at 4 months old, she does not wanna know. I have tried everything, leaving the house, putting breast milk on the end on the teat, putting breast milk in the bottle... NOTHING WORKS! I really need advice as I do not want to breastfeed anymore.

I am happy to express milk for her to drink out of the bottle, but I just dont want to breastfeed anymore.

Any advice?????

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taking clomid and weaning

by Anonymous
(UK)

Hi,

We tried for 2 years and found out I had pcos. On our second round of clomid we fell pregnant. We now have a wonderful 19 1/2 month old boy.

He's loves breastfeeding and food. My gynio has told me I need to wean him before taking clomid again, but I feel I shouldn't have to punish him because we want another child. I've been told by the dietician to take metformin but doctor won't prescribe while I'm breastfeeding.. Ahhh!
. I've only had one af since having baby. Also down to couple of feeds a day but some times more or less.

Would love some advise on other things you would recommend

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please help - I'm so ready to stop breast feeding

by keeanna t

I'm a full time college student and my son is 11 months old. I'm so ready to stop breast feeding but he just won't allow it. We can make it through the day without any breast milk but at night its so bad that he'll yell and cry and fight at me if I try and refuse. Please give me some advice!

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Jun 14, 2014
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by: sarah

I have the same problem! Unfortunately for me, the only times she gets my milk anymore is at nap/bed time.

She has mentally connected nursing to sleep. No milk, no sleep. I know that substitution of a habit is the best route, but I have no idea how to substitute this habit when I want to cut the eating part completely.

She is old enough that she eats chopped "big people" food during the day and drinks from a sippy cup or bottle, but I can't get her to sleep through the night without multiple nursings.

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Once I stop it's really over

by Karen

I had twin baby girls 2 months ago. They came early and by c-section and spent 2 1/2 weeks in the nicu.

The doctors asked if i was ok with them getting formula as be breast milk had not come in yet. I decided it was best for the babies to get the formula and helped that my breast milk would come in shortly.

I took 8 days to get anything. All the nurses and doctors said that it would come in and to just keep pumping.

I pumped every 2 hours for the first week and a half. It almost killed me. I was getting no sleep and was stressed about my babies health and not being able to produce milk.

They stayed on formula with me giving them what milk i got. After 3 weeks my milk just stopped. I pumped and pumped and got only drops.

I am now taking herbal supplements, pumping and putting the babies to the breast as often as I can, but am only getting about 4 ml a day. I am crying all the time and feel horrible that I can't provide for my babies.

I want to hold them to me and feed them, but the milk just isn't there. They are still small and on a high calorie diet to help them but on weight, so I worry about tiring them out by having them suck on a breast that can't give them nutrition.

My husband is very supportive of an decision I make, but I feel stuck. I don't want to stop trying to get milk. Once I stop it's really over and I'm not sure how to deal with that.

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Dec 08, 2015
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I understand low milk supply
by: Michelle

Oh, I know just how you feel. All through my pregnancy I just expected to breastfeed and it was quite a shock when that was not the case.

I have several nurses giving bad advice in the hospital

- nurses taking him from me after birth when I asked for help to attach him, saying that I needed rest,

- nurses not knowing about correct attachment that I later learned from a lactation consultant and instead giving formula when I said it was painful (which I didn't want to do but felt bad saying no to the 'experts')

As I result, my son lost weight when I exclusively breast fed.

I would only get about 20-25ml each time I expressed. I never got engorged. I felt awful and was in tears all the time.

Your title describes exactly how I felt - that it was emotionally distressing trying all sorts of herbs and supplements and pumping around the clock, but not wanting to stop because then it was all over.

I don't know if this is something you are familiar with or is a helpful suggestion, but I personally used a supplemental nursing system (SNS). It is a bottle that can filled up with formula but instead of a teat, it has a two thin tubes coming out of it that is taped to the end of the nipple so that baby is happy to breast feed because they are receiving milk, and at the same time, is helping stimulate supply from the baby sucking. I did this for three months and perhaps is something you might consider if you don't feel ready to call it quits.

I am now expecting baby number two and am planning to get off to a much better start.

I recently went to a breast feeding class in preparation and learned that the most milk is made while the breast is being stimulated from feeding feeding/expressing, so it is important to pump for 10-15 minutes regardless of whether the breast is still releasing milk or not. There are supplements and medication that you can take to help supply.

Whatever path you take, I can reassure you that while I felt guilty at the time having to supplement my son with 'second rate' formula and felt guilty when I decided to move on to bottle feeding, I now look back at that time and am quite proud of myself for the effort I put in when I had such a difficult start (still resentful towards the hospital for making it an awful start - but that's another story!)

If you want any more support, feel free to email me [email protected]

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Stopped breastfeeding.. Now what?!

by Audrey

Ive just stopped breastfeeding, my lo is 6 weeks and im going back to work and decided breastfeeding wouldn't work out for when i'm there.

But everytime i go to sleep, i wake up with my shirt soaked with milk. Besides breast pads, any suggestions on what to do to help or prevent this from happening?!

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Mar 16, 2015
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herbs that decrease supply
by: Tracy

Hi Audrey

Weaning should be a gradual process. So that the transition for you, and your baby is easier. (A gradual decrease in demand of breast milk, will lead to less milk produced.)

If your breasts start to feel a little tight, you can pump them a little for comfort. Ice packs can also be used to decrease the swelling and pain.

Here are some herbs that can help decrease milk supply: Herb Robert, Red sage, Garden mint and Periwinkle.
(check with your doc before taking any of these, especially if you are on meds)

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How to wean from a breast shield

by Lisbet Ruiz
(Los Angeles, CA)

My daughter is 3 months old and she was born as premature baby. I could not breastfeed her because she could not latch on and if she did, it was with the shield.

At 2.5 I started feeding her without the shield, but she gets frustrated after 15min of nursing.

Is there anyway I can be helped or is it that she got used to the bottle and does not want to be breastfeed. (I do not use formula, I pump to feed her in bottles.)

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Jul 17, 2014
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does not want to be breastfeed.
by: Tracy

Hi Lisbet

I applaud you for continuing to give your baby the best nutrition possible, even though she is not getting it directly from the source.

Your baby is struggling with nipple confusion. The two feeding methods used, namely bottle and breast use completely different tongue and mouth movements.

A bottle flows much faster than the breast and this makes baby lazy. Therefore, baby does not want to wait for the breast to start flowing, because she is accustomed to a constant fast flow of milk now.

A few tips

- Pump your breast for a few minutes before trying to feed your baby, this will get your milk flowing, so that she does not need to wait for the milk to start flowing.

- Lots of skin to skin contact while breastfeeding should encourage her to stay at the breast.

- Carrying your little girl in a sling may encourage her to breastfeed through the day.

- Use slow flowing artificial nipples when necessary.

- If you have to use the shield, its ok. Here are some tips on weaning from a shield...

* Pump a few seconds before trying your own nipple, as this will elongate your nipple and make breastfeeding easier. A Lansinoh LatchAssist is a small device that can easily elongate the nipple, just before a nursing session.

- Feed your baby before he/she gets hungry and impatient.

- Put some expressed breast milk on your nipple to encourage your baby to drink directly from the breast.

- While using the shield, after letdown has occurred, try removing the shield and then see if your baby will drink.

Hope this helps

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Two year old trying to breastfeed - weaned over a year ago

by breastfeeding again?

My son is 2yrs old and he had been off of the beast for over a year. Today he literally tried to feed and caressed my breast afterwards. I am not pregnant and don't have a younger baby, please tell me what's going on? He squeezes boobs frequently no matter who you are.

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Tips to stop milk production after losing a baby?

by Rachael
(LA, CA)

I was still nursing my 18-month old when she passed away unexpectedly.

It's been over a week and I am still producing milk and am increasingly uncomfortable.

Any suggestions on how to help stop milk production or dry up the milk?

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Feb 26, 2013
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herbs
by: Tracy

So sorry to hear about your loss.

There are herbs you can take to dry up milk production namely:

Oregano, Parsley, Peppermint, menthol and spearmint, Sage (which is actually used for weaning or for healing mastitis), Sorrel, Thyme, Chickweed, Periwinkle, Cocoa.

You can also eat anything (even sweets) containing peppermint or mint.

Hope this helps


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What does natural weaning look like?

by Muddy mummy

I wonder how often other mummies who still feed their 3 and a half year olds feed them ... what restrictions they place if any .... if they always feed enthusiastically ..... and what natural weaning really looks like?
cheers

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Nursing my 3 yr old
by: Anonymous

My daughter is almost 3 1/2 and not yet ready to wean. I nurse her 2 -3 times per day. Morning, naptime and bedtime. Only at home and only among my family ( Husband and 10 yr old and 7 yr old. It helps her sleep at naptime, and relaxes me too.

i know she'll self-wean soon, but for now, i'm glad i can nurse her.

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help -- i've stopped cold turkey with my 2.5 yr. old

by christine
(rochester, ny)

she seems to be ok with it -- so far, but my left one is so engorged I look ridiculous. is stopping cold turkey bad for me?

Thank you for any advice.

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Oct 12, 2012
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Weaning
by: Zelda Behr

I would strongly suggest you start again.

Weaning is a very stressful and emotional proses for mom and baby.

It should be done gradually over a long time period, dropping one feed per week leaving the nigh time feed for last.

This way you don't get engorgement and there is no emotional stress on her.

Things that might help make it easier.

* You will have to give more emotional attention to baby, as breastfeeding is a very close bond. Snuggle up close with a story book or a chat.

* Offer her something instead of the breast cup of milk or a juice she likes.

Relieve from engorgement.

* You can bump a bit, just enough to get comfortable, pumping too much can increase milk supply.

* Cabbage leaves: cold cabbage leaves can reduce the swelling.

* Hand express some milk.

* Cold compression will help relieve engorgement.

* Peppermint tea, sage, and thyme help to reduce milk production.

Good luck.




Oct 13, 2012
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weaning
by: Tracy

Hi

Weaning should be a gradual process, in which you drop a few feeds every week, to give your body a chance to adapt.

Read more on weaning here...

http://www.breastfeeding-problems.com/breastfeeding-weaning.html

Oct 16, 2012
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Weaning
by: Anonymous

I'm checking out this site and your comment cause I've recently done the same, I have a 19month old and felt that it's been time to wean since last month so I've finally done it, we're in the 4th full day of, "Cold Turkey", I feel good about it and so does my child, however he'll have his melt downs every so often, but gets over them faster and faster each time so we're in the home stretch, I think, but my breasts are engorged and hurting, am I running the risk of mastitis....???

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by: Zelda Behr

Yes you can get mastitis and if it is left untreated could turn into a breast abases, that will need to be surgically drained.

Here is some info on engorgement...

http://www.breastfeeding-problems.com/engorged-breasts.html


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how to stop breastfeeding?

by vr
(Baroda,Gujarat,India )

I am a mother of 2 year old baby I want stop my baby from breastfeeding please send me any suggestions regarding this.

My baby is a tough baby to get him away from this habit. Please give suggestions keeping such nature of his in mind.

I would be looking forward for your suggestions.

Thank you..

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2 year old and weaning
by: T

Hi!

Congratulations on getting to the two year mark!

I had the same thing with my little girl, she would breastfeed every hour during the day and at night...I think it was mostly for comfort at the two year mark. Anyways, it got to much for me, coz a person needs a good nights rest.

The best thing to do is to start weaning gradually. This is what I did...

I started cutting out the night feedings first. When she woke up I would go lie with her in her room and just hold her close...then get up when she was quiet. she did cry a bit, coz she wanted the breast, but I just held her until she stopped. Kept saying "the booboo is gone".

During the day I would not offer the breast, but allowed her to breastfeed when she wanted to. I started offering more alternative drinks.

After about a week I would start saying "booboos are dry, theres no more milk". She cried twice that I can remember and was fine after that. Every few days she would ask, but I just stuck to my guns. lol. Dont give in!

Now my little girl is three and a half and every now and then she still likes to caress the boobs, lol, shes very fond of them.

Hope this helps! ;-)

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