Calming Baby for Breastfeeding

Calming your baby will help make the breastfeeding process as smooth as possible. Some babies cry more than others, but they all do cry.

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Help Calm Your Baby during and for Breastfeeding

  • It is uncommon for foods to cause fussiness, but it is possible. Watch your baby for sensitivity towards dairy products, large amounts of caffeine, and any foods that usually make you gassy (Your baby is likely sensitive to the same foods as you are). 
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  • A nursing necklace may calm Baby and keep him/her from being distracted.
  • Learn about colic while breastfeeding.
  • Find a comfortable breastfeeding position, also get yourself some comfortable breastfeeding tops for easy access.
  • Talk, hum or sing softly to calm Baby. Cuddle, stroke and touch him/her gently.
  • Calming Baby may be as simple as holding him/her in a more upright position during breastfeeding and directly afterward.
  • Experiment with how often and when you burp your baby. Burping your baby can reduce the pain caused by swallowing too much air during feedings.
  • Offer meals in a quiet environment. Keep activities before bedtime or breastfeeding, to things that will not overstimulate your baby. 
  • A mother can consume calming herbs, which will intern calm her baby.
  • Give your baby a warm bath, before a breastfeeding session.
  • Massage your baby’s tummy, or give him/her a full massage. Baby massage has been proven to calm babies with colic. 
  • Swaddle your baby in a warm blanket. Babywearing is an effective way to calm and soothe a fussy baby. 
  • Walk while holding your baby, in a quiet, dark room while you hum or sing.
  • Keep your baby away from highly stimulating situations during the day when possible, to prevent sensory overload.
  • A fussy baby will usually calm down when you play soothing music or turn on some white noise, such as a vacuum cleaner or running water.
  • Babies can sense any anxiety within their mothers, so try to be cool, calm and collected.
  • Sometimes when a mother has a very forceful letdown or underactive letdown, it can cause her baby to fuss a lot and even choke during breastfeeding.
  • Skin to skin contact, co-sleeping, and kangaroo mother care are highly recommended. 

Eight Hours of Calming White Noise

Calming Baby with Motion/Swaddling

Does My Baby Have Colic?

Natural Colic Remedies

What Do Baby’s Cries Mean?

All babies cry, some more than others.

As new parents, we all have this magical picture of a sleeping baby being cradled in the arms, but the reality is they do cry, and it leaves us frustrated, tired and overwhelmed.

After the birth of my baby boy, we had a few sleepless nights, wondering why he was crying… leaving mommy crying with him and daddy frustrated, is it colic? Is he hungry? Is he sick? And so I did some research...

Well, I have good news for all of you, babies have their own language, each cry and gesture is a signal for a specific need.

Hope this helps you as much as it helped me.

Why do babies cry?

To put it plainly babies cry because they cannot talk. Even if babies could speak, they don't understand the way they feel, so they need us to help them understand.

Experts across the world have been trying to figure out why babies cry and specifically why some cry more than others.

Babies pick up on your emotions, so moms who feel low, depressed, anxious, exhausted or angry, who have relationship problems or rejection feelings are more likely to have babies who cry excessively.

A mom that experiences an upsetting or distressing birth is also more likely to have a baby that cries excessively in the first few months of life.

Crying is the way babies signal a need for hunger, tiredness, pain, boredom and other things. Why is my baby crying? More reasons why babies cry.

The Cry

Crying baby sound

The signs

I’m hungry

Low pitch cry.
Rhythm rises and falls.

Baby sucks hands.
If 3-4 hours have passed since last feed.
Baby wakes up crying.
If he had a full diaper.
Some babies just want to suck for comfort, offer him a dummy or let him suck on the breast he most recently fed from.

Baby sleep cry

Soft rhythmical cry.

Baby blinks, yawns, rubs his eyes and baby kicks and cries.
Baby gets less active.
He loses interest in people and toys.

Burp me


I’m uncomfortable

Whiney baby crying sound

Baby doesn’t stop crying when picked up.
Baby is too hot or cold; check by placing your hand in the back of his neck or on his tummy to feel if he is too hot or cold.
If the baby is squirming, that might indicate it’s time for a diaper change.
If he turns away from the light and flails his arms and legs he might be overstimulated; take him to a quieter and darker area.
If he is squirming, and looking around he might just need a cuddle.

Communication month by month.

0-3 months

  • Crying is baby’s primary means of communications.
  • Baby may cry for no apparent reason.
  • Your baby will respond to your voice by smiling or getting excited.
  • Babies start smiling at their parents. Baby might still be shy to smile for strangers but, might still coo.
  • There might be times that you have met all your baby’s needs, yet he/she is still crying. 

4-8 months

  • By this age babies learn causes and effects and how to coordinate actions and thought; this makes the signs clear.
  • Baby will start using signs to indicate his/her needs like raising arms to show he/she wants to be picked up.
  • If your baby turns his head away and breaks eye contact, he/she has had enough stimulation or simply wants to play on their own.
  • Babies learn a language by picking up on stress patterns in words.

9-12 months

  • Your baby will start using words like “mama" and “dada."
  • Your baby will start nodding and shaking his/her head.
  • Your baby will start paying more attention to your words and will try to imitate you.
  • Babies begin to show likes and dislikes like nodding in agreement and pulling their noses up in dislike.
  • They will also start showing you what they want by pointing, gesturing or crawling.

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