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You have two choices:
1. Continue to lactate and donate the milk to other babies, who may need it.
2. Stop milk production as comfortably as possible.
You may decide to provide the milk to a friend or family member who has a baby that is sick or who could drink breast milk instead of formula.
You could do this just until her own milk supply has dried up, or you may decide to do this for a couple of years. You could find a neighbor or family member's child to nurse, this is not always socially acceptable, but this will significantly benefit the baby who is receiving the breast milk.
You can donate your milk to a human milk bank. At these banks, they screen the milk, kill the bacteria, freeze it and send it to mothers who cannot breastfeed or to premature or ill babies around the world. A woman may feel that she is honoring the short life of her baby, by giving another child a better start to life.
If you are engorged, you can pump 5 minutes every 5 hours on the first day, then 5 minutes every 6 hours on the second day and then the last few days, pump just enough for comfort. A warm shower can also be used to reduce engorgement.
Some Helpful Methods to Stop Lactation
Tracy Behr, CBC, CLD (CBI)
Reference: Course information through Childbirth International on the physiology of breastfeeding and stillbirth and miscarriage.