Unable to breastfeed

by Alexandra
(Las vegas)

So happy to have found this. A year after having my son it still hurts to know I was unable to breastfeed.

I cringe everytime I hear or read something negative about moms who don't breastfeed. I wish there were more articles or research on this issue.

And this support forum feels like a huge sigh of relief :) As mothers we should support eachother.

We All feel insecure in our role as mothers at some point or most of the time. Anyone who picks on a mom who is unable to breastfeed is just trying to ease their own insecurities. Before becoming a mother I had a great deal of expectation in my head of what it was all about (It was something like perfection.) And you know what, just like everything else in this world it's full of ups and downs.

It's time to forgive myself for the things I can't change. :) love and healing to everyone out there <3

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unable to breast feed for 'other' reasons

The truth of it is, I drove myself to the edge of a nervous breakdown trying to breast feed a premature baby with a tongue tie and failing, then topping up with formula, then pumping, then sterilizing, then changing.

They told me to wake her every 2 hours for a feed, and each time I failed, I had to go through the breastfeed fail, top-up, express, sterilize.

This 2 hour cycle was taking me 3 hours. I did not sleep at all for days on end. I know its the same for everyone, but I guess I had a bad reaction to the love of my life being born early and I ended up diagnosed with post natal depression and on antidepressants.

When the tongue tie was snipped the nurse told me I would have to work even harder than I had been already to establish breast feeding. And yes, at that point I gave up. I was mentally and physically unable to continue.

I can't even use the almost accepted reason of low supply.

Society has truly made me feel a failure in this respect and it makes me sadder than I can put into words as I suffer from infertility and was only able to conceive my darling by IVF.

I can't even have a go next time.

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May 15, 2013
I feel your pain - unable to breastfeed baby
by: Michelle

I felt so touched by your story I just had to reply. I gave birth to my son and just expected to breast feed. I had a very big stress just days into his birth which I think is the reason I had low milk supply.

Baby was just losing weight when I breast fed. I used an SNS (a bottle that I filled with formula and it had a tube that was taped to my nipple) to supplement my baby with formula while I breast fed. Like you, it was a big effort, feeding, trying to get my nipple and the tube in baby's mouth in the right position, sterilizing the SNS, and preparing for the next feed.

I felt like a failure - like I needed a prosthetic breast to feed him. I was embarrassed to do this in public and after 12 weeks, went to bottle feeding.

I felt I had missed out on a part of motherhood and wanted to try for a second baby straight away so I could have this boding experience I missed out on. Like you, I suffered infertility and could not conceive a second child. I am now going through IVF round 2 but don't know if it will be a disaster like the first round. I would love to chat with you so we can both feel not so alone. Feel free to email me [email protected]

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unable to produce enough milk

by Tina

Thanks everyone.

I also have been unable to produce enough milk n have been feeling horrible bout it. I have tried to breastfeed my son n most recently my daughter.

The kids were tongue tied n the latch was painful until it was corrected.

I have birth to my daughter by c section nin the middle of a power outage And a state of emergency.

It was hours before I could breastfeed n then her tongue was tied n the hospital wouldn't correct it so u waited until discharge n got an appointment with the pediatrician who clipped her tongue.

Manual pumping to try to build supply was not very fruitful at two weeks she has lost weight n I am devasted at the thought of not breastfeefing but I would breastfeed for 2 hrs n still she would take two to three ounces suplement I have a three year old as well.

The Dr has been the nicest bout it. My family not so much so. I haven't told them How much it upsets me. But u won't have my daughter losing weight.

I forgot to mention she has thrush too as upset as I am over it I an not going to keep struggling pumping a dwindling supply of milk worrying bout it forever this sure has helped tremendously I have healthy happy children n this is just one of the disappointments in life

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