Ah, pacifier weaning. I don’t know who gets more stressed over this
situation – the mother or the child.
On the one hand, we want our
children to be strong and independent, on the other, we loath to cause
Removing something as precious as a dummy from a two year old is
fraught with emotions. Guilt is the biggest one as it goes both ways. We
feel guilty letting them keep the pacifier because it might cause some
harm and we feel guilty removing something that is obviously a comfort.
I have had three children and three very different experiences with
pacifier weaning. My first child was breastfed on demand for just on a
year, so I suppose in some ways I was the dummy. She didn’t show much
interest in the pacifier after a couple of months, so I just threw it
out and that was that.
My second child was a boy who discovered that his three middle
fingers were just as good as any old dummy, so weaning from the pacifier
in his case was a snip. I merely removed the pacifier from sight when
he was about three months old and he was as happy as Larry with a fluffy
blanket and his nifty digits. They were always on hand (excuse the
pun), never got lost and never needed replacing.
After these two, I thought I had this weaning from pacifier
business down pat. Then my third and last child arrived and completely
upset the apple cart. She didn’t like her dummy, she loved it. When I
put her on solids, I used the dummy between mouthfuls to stop her from
screaming like a banshee because I couldn’t feed her fast enough. It was
an essential tool at mealtimes.
I learned to have several of her favourite pacifiers in stock.
Thankfully, she was not attached to a particular dummy so as soon as
they got old and sticky I would replace them with a new one. I tried to
remove them altogether quite a few times, but the poor little thing was
so miserable that I did not have the heart to continue, it seemed like
child abuse. It fairly broke my heart when I saw her staring wistfully
at some other child with a dummy in its mouth. When I finally relented
and bought another one, she would fall on it like a long lost friend and
peace returned to the house.
Eventually I decided she would give it up when she was ready and
stopped trying to force the issue. I can’t say it did her any harm. She
learned to speak just as early as the other two. In fact, she was my
most talkative child.
By Gizelle Bichard
Weaning from Pacifier Use ~ How to Wean Your Baby Off the Binky