Why is my Baby Crying?

As a first time parent, it can sometimes be hard to work out what your baby is trying to tell you; is he hungry, cold, thirsty, bored, looking for a cuddle?

Here is a page with the different baby cries and how to identify each. 

In the early days, when you have not yet learned to work out what your baby desires, a crying baby may be upsetting, but you will slowly start to recognize your baby's different crying patterns. As you get to know him/her more, you will develop the capability of predicting your baby’s needs.

Reasons why Babies Cry 

1. Your baby might be ill. Buy a baby thermometer and keep it handy.

look for some of these signs and symptoms that might indicate that your baby's crying is the result of a 'real' problem:

  • Fever, cough, and/or runny nose.
  • Crying after feedings.
  • Spitting up a lot (vomiting baby).
  • Having gas or diarrhoea.
  • Weight loss.
  • Bloody stools in nappy.
  • Losing interest in food.
  • Baby not sleeping.

2. Babies cry when they have a nappy rash. Get some special nappy rash cream for your baby.

Read more about nappy rash prevention and treatment.

3. Your baby is hungry.

Read more about hunger cues.

4. Your baby is getting too hot or too cold. Are his/her clothes right for the weather?

5. Your baby has a dirty diaper. Check to see if it is time to change him/her. 

6. Baby is tired. Sometimes it’s difficult for a baby to wind down for a sleep, due to all of the attention and over stimulation during the day. Try giving your baby a nice, warm bath and massage.

Massage is a good way to relieve colic too. 

Baby massage page.

7. Baby is just plain irritable. Your little one may also have mood swings! Sometimes an irritable baby just needs to comfort feed. Skin to skin contact can help calm him/her. 

8. Infant colic symptoms: Colic remedies may include things like Colic drops, gripe water and special preparations, like Infacol. 

First off, try burping your baby during and after every feeding for colic relief. Some colicky babies need a little more burping than others.

Does your baby clench his/her fists a lot? This is the first sign of colic. If your baby is formula feeding, you can change to another brand, or if you breastfeed, you can start watching the foods that you eat. It is not very common, but occasionally, the foods a mother eats, can cause gassiness in her baby. 

Signs of food allergy may include:

  • Drawing of the knees up to the chest.
  • Baby's stomach may be swollen and/or feel hard.

9. Your baby crying, could be due to boredom. Play with your baby and give him/her plenty of attention.

10. Your baby may be teething.

Teething remedies discussed here.

11. Baby wants some affection, and just wants to be held. A warm cuddle will calm your baby.

12. Your baby feels your mood: Those mothers, who are depressed, anxious, angry, or exhausted, tend to have children who cry more often. 

13. Your baby could have an earache: If your baby is grabbing or pulling at the ears a lot, it could indicate an ear infection.

14. Baby cries for no reason at all: If there seems to be no specific reason for your baby's crying, it could just be part of infant development. As Dr. Marc Weissbluth, pediatrician and author states: “birds fly and babies cry".

15. Baby is being pinched: Your baby might have some skin that is irritated by a label or a zipper, or the car-seatbelt or stroller straps.

16. Baby feels insecure: Between the age of six and nine months, your baby will learn that he/she is separate from you; he may cry when you leave the room, because he/she is scared you will not come back.

17. Baby is stressed out: Too much noise, movement, bright light or any kind of over stimulation can make baby cry more. 

18. Your baby may be going through a growth spurt period.

19. Acid reflux could also be causing your baby to be fussy and spit up a lot.

Read more about breastfeeding a baby with acid reflux.

20. An overactive or under active let down reflex, can also cause babies to become very frustrated while breastfeeding.

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Tips to get your Baby to Stop Crying

  • Baby massage.
  • Swaddling (wrapping your baby in a blanket).
  • Holding and cuddling Baby. Some babies like to be held and walked around with; instead of sitting in one position while breastfeeding, you could wear your baby
  • A rocking motion can be very soothing to a baby. 
  • Sing and talk softly.
  • White noise can also calm babies. Like the sound of a vacuum or running water. 
  • Use the cuddle cure by Dr Harvey. Watch the video here

White Noise to Calm your Baby

When you Start to Feel Overwhelmed

  • Take deep breaths to calm yourself.
  • Call a friend or family member and ask them to come over. Get them to take over for a while.
  • Do not blame yourself for your baby's crying; remind yourself that crying will not hurt your baby. (It is part of every baby's normal development) 
  • If it gets to much, put your baby down somewhere safe for a little while. Let your baby cry it out for a while, put your headphones on if you have to. 

Many moms feel that they want to give up on breastfeeding, due to the many different difficulties they might be experiencing during breastfeeding, but can I please encourage you to read our page on the benefits of breastfeeding.

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